Rules for Raising a Child
- Do not embarrass her, shame her, or make her self-conscious.
- Let her be childish.
- Let her be herself, whoever that ends up being (do not project, do not push, do not rush; in other words, get out of her way).
- From Susan Sontag: make her aware that there's a grown-up world that's none of her business.
- Listen. Really, really listen.
- Acknowledge the effort. "Good job!", "good work!", "You're so smart", "You're so talented" = no; "You worked really hard at that" = yes. *
- Routine, not schedule. Also, breaking routine is good; builds resilience.
- Apologize to her when you are wrong.
- Be compassionate with yourself, so she might learn to be compassionate for herself.
- You do not own her; she is in your protection.
* This is a hard habit to break.