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An artist, writer and healer-in-training musing on the magickal arts of self-compassion & self-care, and the alchemy of living a creative life.

Rules for Raising a Child

Rules for Raising a Child

  1. Do not embarrass her, shame her, or make her self-conscious.
  2. Let her be childish.
  3. Let her be herself, whoever that ends up being (do not project, do not push, do not rush; in other words, get out of her way).
  4. From Susan Sontag: make her aware that there's a grown-up world that's none of her business.
  5. Listen. Really, really listen.
  6. Acknowledge the effort. "Good job!", "good work!", "You're so smart", "You're so talented" = no; "You worked really hard at that" = yes. *
  7. Routine, not schedule. Also, breaking routine is good; builds resilience.
  8. Apologize to her when you are wrong.
  9. Be compassionate with yourself, so she might learn to be compassionate for herself.
  10. You do not own her; she is in your protection.

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* This is a hard habit to break.

Neil Gaiman on Writing

Neil Gaiman on Writing

On Keeping a Notebook (Part I: Obsessions)

On Keeping a Notebook (Part I: Obsessions)